What NOT To Ask The Tarot

by Brigit on May 30, 2012 in Tarot Tutorials


The Tarot can answer everything, right? You just think of your problem, lay out the cards, and shazzam, you have your answer, yeah?


While the Tarot cards are certainly there to guide you and to provide insight into your troubles and concerns, there are just some questions NOT to ask the Tarot.

Eleven Questions NOT to Ask the Tarot

Here are eleven questions NOT to ask the Tarot.

1. Will my lover leave his wife? Or any other question about another person’s life that is not directly related to you. This brings up issues around privacy and accuracy. Privacy because you are delving into someone else’s private life using the Tarot cards without their permission. And accuracy because you will still be seeing the situation from your/the client’s perspective and not necessarily the situation at hand.

win-lottery2. Will I win the lottery? The lottery is a game of chance and there is very little that you can do to influence you winning (except for buying a lottery ticket!). So, leave this up to chance and those little coloured balls that bounce around in the big glass bubble, rather than consulting the Tarot cards for this type of question.

3. Does my ex hate me? Or any other question that deals with such negative emotion. “Hate” is such a strong word and it often implies that you are blaming someone else for taking out their negativity on you. And, if you got the answer, yes, your ex hates you, then what? What can you do about it? It becomes so disempowering.

Instead, focus on questions such as, “What can I do to improve on my relationship with so-and-so?” or “What do I need to improve within myself to create better relationships with others?”

4. When will I die? Or “How long will I live?” Apart from being incredibly morbid, this is not an appropriate question for the Tarot because the Tarot is intended as a guide and there is really no ‘guiding’ with this type of question. Knowing the answer will not help.

5. What is the name of my soul mate? The Tarot cannot accurately name significant people in your life (at least not that I am aware of!). Sure, it can identify what type of person is best suited to you, but it will not hone in on just one person in a universe of 7 billion people. I also believe that many people have the potential to be your soul mate, so why just focus on one?

am-i-pregnant6. Am I pregnant? I’ll let you in on a secret. The best way to know if you’re pregnant is to do a pregnancy test.

The Tarot cards are not a proxy for a visit to the doctor. Yes, they can highlight if there is a possible issue or concern, but go and see your doctor to get it checked out. Leave any sort of diagnosis, prognosis, or treatment advice to the medical professionals.

7. Will my wife’s cancer go into remission? Or any other question specifically about health and the health of other’s (even loved ones). This is generally an outcome that you cannot influence, so rather than consulting the Tarot cards about what will happen, refocus the question on what you can do to support your loved one through this difficult time and maximise the chances of recovery. Similarly, if you require health advice, consult a doctor.

8. Should I take the job? Or any other “Should I…” type of question. You need to take responsibility and accountability for your own life and your own decisions. It is better to ask the Tarot, “What is the impact/pros and cons if I take this path?” or “What can I expect if I do XYZ?” That way, you are still making the decision, not the Tarot cards.

9. Whatever comes up. Not everyone is going to agree with me on this one, but personally, I find vague inquiries like this are very difficult to read on, particularly when doing an email Tarot reading. Why? Because we spend a lot of time trying to figure out where to focus before we even get to delivering any helpful insight or guidance about the situation at hand.

If your question is vague and general, so too will be the answer. If your question is detailed and specific, then so too will be the answer.

For these types of ‘questions’, I encourage the client to focus in on an area that is important to them or to nominate a specific question for the Tarot.

Face-to-face Tarot readings are a little different. For these types of situations, draw three cards and look at the key themes. Use these cards like a magnifying glass to hone in deeper.

get-married10. When will I get married? Ok, this probably isn’t a terrible question to ask the Tarot, particularly if you feel comfortable with answering timing questions or have a tried and tested method for doing so. However, the trouble with this type of question is that it assumes that you will get married at some point in your life. But what if you don’t?

I recommend rephrasing the question to something like, “What do I need to know about getting married?” or “What is the potential of my relationship with so-and-so?”

11. Will I win the court case? In most cases, this is completely out of your hands and in the hands of the judge or the court system that is dealing with your case. You are better off asking the Tarot what you can do to improve your chances of success or what you need to know about the court case at this time.

What’s more, Tarot readers are typically not legal professionals and are therefore not in a position to provide legal advice. Stay on the safe side and invest your money in legal advice rather than a Tarot reading on the topic.

What Makes a ‘Good’ Question for the Tarot Cards

Asking the right types of questions can make or break a good Tarot reading.

So what constitutes a good question?

The best questions are those that elicit information to empower you to make the best decisions for yourself or situation. They focus on what you can influence or change in a positive and constructive way.

Good questions are often open-ended, providing ‘space’ to explore different options and possibilities. But they are also detailed and specific, allowing focus and direction.

Good questions focus on yourself rather than others. They create a feeling of responsibility and accountability, reinforcing that you have free will and can indeed shape your own destiny.

How to (Re)Phrase a Tarot Question

In most cases, an initially inappropriate question can be slightly tweaked or rephrased in order for it to be appropriate for the Tarot cards.

The following questions are helpful starting points for rephrasing a question:

  • What do I need to know about… ?
  • What do I need to do to achieve…?
  • What is standing in the way and how can I best overcome this?
  • How can I improve my ability to…?
  • What role do I play in so-and-so’s life/issue?
  • What do I need to change in order to…?
  • What is the potential for…?

Thus, if the initial question is something like, “Will I get married this year?” you may like to rephrase it to, “What do I need to know about getting married this year?” or “What do I need to do to improve my chances of getting married this year?”

You can also include a timeframe in your request to increase the specificity of the question and the answer. For example, “What do I need to know about my finances in the next 6 months?” or “Will I meet a romantic partner in the next 3 months?” However, it is generally best not to set a timeframe that is beyond a year as a lot will have changed after this time.

That said, the question does not have to be perfectly worded. Consider what you really want to know or understand about a situation, and then formulate your question(s) accordingly. What is most important is that you are clear about what you’re asking the Tarot cards and that you are empowered to positively impact your future.

A Reader’s Perspective

Let me share with you an email I received recently from a Biddy Tarot reader…

“I sent you an email in October saying I had lost faith in the tarot.

“Well, my faith has been rekindled.

“I have changed my questioning on the tarot. For example, instead of asking what does a friend think of me, I now change it to how beneficial is that person’s friendship to me.

“Thank-you for the inspiration,


Over to You…

What Tarot questions are a ‘no-no’ for you when reading the cards? How do you deal with difficult or poorly phrased questions? Leave your comments and stories below.

P.S. The Art of Asking Questions is the Source of All Knowledge

Asking the right question is vital if you are looking for an insightful and powerful Tarot reading. When you start asking the right types of questions, you’ll begin to see the true spirit of the Tarot coming through.

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Aasheesh May 30, 2012 at 6:42 am

Using right words to frame a question is indeed very important.As a Tarot reader one has to constantly reframe the question on behalf of the client.People are generally looking for straight answers instead of seeking guidance.This post has been an eye opener on how to frame the right question.
Just curious to know why questions relating to court cases need not be direct ?


Brigit May 30, 2012 at 6:00 pm

Hi Aasheesh,
Personally I feel that a court case outcome is most often out of the hands of the seeker so it is better to focus on what they can do to influence the outcome, rather than the outcome itself. It’s really up to the judge to decide on the outcome, and that brings in the thoughts and actions of a third party.


Richard Palmer May 30, 2012 at 11:14 am

In my reading practice I decline all health related questions as, at least under the legal system in the country in which I live, this could be construed as practicing medicine without a license. I tell them to see a licensed physician.


Brigit May 30, 2012 at 5:51 pm

Very smart :-)


Johnny May 30, 2012 at 9:14 pm

A very well-detailed blog about what is appropriate to ask to the mighty Tarot. Your website is an excellent source of learning more about the unique powers of the Tarot.


Brigit May 31, 2012 at 6:14 am

Thanks Johnny for your continued support!


Karen Bright May 30, 2012 at 11:06 pm

What about a question related to business :
I have had people ask me things like “Will I get paid for this contract?” (or about a contract which was in dispute for some time). This question is related to the querent but dependant on a third party. Is it proper to ask the Tarot cards this question?

In one case, I did ask the question (it directly related to the querent’s financial situation which was important) and I got the Queen of Cups. I thought that meant that the payment would be forthcoming, and in the full amount, but I wonder now if I should have even asked.
What do you think?


Brigit May 31, 2012 at 6:06 am

For the question, “Will I get paid…”, I would rephrase it to something like, “What do I need to do to increase my chances of getting paid?” – put the ball back in the client’s court.
Queen of Cups… I would be looking at the emotional side of the situation. Perhaps not a direct answer, but an open door to exploring the situation further.


Karen Bright May 31, 2012 at 6:08 am

Thanks! That makes more sense….
Great article! I must say I have learned more about Tarot in the last while following this website (and blog) than ever before! :)


Brigit May 31, 2012 at 11:12 pm

Thanks Karen!


Diana Cairns May 31, 2012 at 3:18 am

Thanks for your good advice about what not to ask the Tarot, Brigit.
Your advice on how to ask questions seems to show that the querant can only achieve certain outcomes if the ball is “in their court” (pardon the pun when it comes to legal cases!)
If the cards indicate a certain outcome, can the querant radically change the outcome if he or she wants to?
I was advised at a reading that I could change the outcome predicted by the cards. It did change for a while but now it seems as if things could still go the way that the cards indicated, even if that is not what I want.
The Tarot cards can be very accurate, so how much power does the querant have over what the cards are showing?
Many thanks for another very helpful article.


Brigit May 31, 2012 at 6:01 am

Hi Diana,
It is my belief that we can change our future destinies – that’s what free will is all about! However, there are some situations we cannot directly change, for example court cases, what other people think or do, the lottery, death, etc. Personally, I feel that our energy is better focused on those things we can change, rather than those things we can’t.
I do also think we’re generally headed on a particular course. So, we are almost destined to learn certain life lessons, but how we learn those lessons is up to us. So, this explains why you have been able to change your course, but you have still landed in a similar predicament as shown in the cards.
It is definitely a fine balance between what is within and outside of our control.


Frances Hassett May 31, 2012 at 8:54 pm

Very helpful


Diana Cairns June 1, 2012 at 2:43 am

Hi Brigit
Thanks for your reply. I think your last sentence has it in a nutshell – “it is definitely a fine balance between what is within and outside our control”.
Working in medical and legal environments has shown me that certain things are outside our control. Our own attitudes and responses to situations are possibly the only things we can control to some extent.
Thank you for covering this topic, Brigit.
Kind regards


Bonnie June 1, 2012 at 8:53 pm

Wonderful post! I think it helps to frame the question in terms of looking for information that will help with personal growth, if it’s a more personal question, or if it’s a question related to someone else, to frame the question in terms of better understanding that person or better understanding the relationship (and by better understanding, I guess I should say that what I mean is more compassionately understanding). Focusing on personal development and/or developing compasssion for others also seems more respectful of the cards as a spiritual tool, helps the querent and/or reader to ground and be more balanced, and may prevent some kinds of ethical problems, such as privacy concerns, from arising.


Diana Cairns June 2, 2012 at 3:58 pm

Well said, Bonnie. The consultant who has read Tarot cards for me over many years does what you recommend – she encourages the querant to have an attitude that will help them to overcome a problem or deal with a relationship in an ethical or spiritually uplifting way. I believe that this is what the Tarot is for – to provide guidance that is for the highest good of all.


jackie June 4, 2012 at 1:46 pm

…and shazzam, you have your answer, yeah?

LOL Brigit!


Brigit June 5, 2012 at 5:41 am

I’ve been watching too much late-night teleshopping!!


Alexis June 5, 2012 at 8:40 am

This post was really an eye-opener for me! I can sense from here on my readings will be alot better and I too will gain alot from learning how to ask the right questions! Thank you!


Bianca June 9, 2012 at 6:37 am

Hi Brigit! Long time reader, first time commenter! I really love your blog and your card interpretations on this site. They have helped me a lot in my amatuer tarot readings for myself and friends. This blog prompted me to do a “proactive” reading for myself and one of the cards in the reading flummoxed me and I was hoping someone on this thread mught have a better insight.

I asked: “What do I need to do to bring a lasting Loving relationship into my life?”

Present: 3 Wands
Past: 4 Pents
Future: Devil (great..lol)
Opportunity: 2 Swords
Summary: Ace Wands

Everything made sense to me except the 2 swords as an opportunity. At present I do have options, things I have set into motion and am waiting see how they pan out, in the past I have been miserly and held onto to men too tightly. The devil in the future, while not ideal, does not suprise me as I have a tendency to seek out relationships that are sexually fulfilling over emotionally fulfilling although ideally I would like both (who doesn’t!).

My interpretation of the 2 swords was that I recently was broken up with by a man I thought I had possible long term potential with. I could probably work it out with him and perhaps rekindle our relationship. But I have just started dating a new man. It’s only been two weeks and I have no idea where it is going but he seems more suitable for me although so far I don’t feel as passionate about him.

My interpretation was the opportunity is in NOT making any decisions at this time on which way to go. Do you think this is correct? Anyone have thoughts?


Brigit June 9, 2012 at 6:03 pm

Hi Bianca,
Welcome! Great wording on your question, by the way!
I had to laugh when I read through the cards you drew. Have you seen my latest post – http://www.biddytarot.com/top-10-tarot-cards-for-sex/ You’ll find both the Devil and the Ace of Wands there. Two of Swords… well, she’s got a blindfold on, doesn’t she? A little bit kinky, perhaps? Maybe it’s time to have a little fun, considering you’ve come from quite a conservative place with the Four of Pentacles.
Enjoy! Brigit


Bianca June 14, 2012 at 6:35 am

Haha… well, maybe that is the opportunity after all. :) I did read the cards for sex blog and thought it was great. I hadn’t thought about some of the cards in that way before! Thanks for your insight and, again, I love the blog!


Ann December 30, 2012 at 4:11 am

A reader once told me that the 2 of swords can mean that you are defending yourself emotionally (I was, with regard to the relationship I was asking about). Just FYI, if it applies to you, it would seem to mean to welcome opportunity to relate emotionally, rather than cross your swords in front of you and hold back somewhat.


Brigit January 2, 2013 at 7:36 pm

Great insight, Ann. Thanks for sharing.

Daniel June 18, 2012 at 7:22 pm

I am not sure if this is the same as “whatever comes up” but I really like “what message does the universe have for me?” reading for myself and getting others to do it. It’s sent me some really great things at times and things I hadn’t known before or were unseen. I can see that its difficult to work out the topic of the spread during the reading. It’s very open! but still its very interesting.

“The Future” is so scary and uncertain. Everyone has anxiety about it. Will everything fail and I end up homeless? or will I be a millionaire living in a castle on my own island with my soul mate? People really want to know what will happen and most of those don’t ask questions are future based. much better to ask “How do I go about finding my soul mate?” ;)


Brigit June 20, 2012 at 8:16 am

Daniel, great way of turning around a difficult question to something more helpful.


jackie June 19, 2012 at 12:22 am

I was told not to do a reading for myself. That if I do I wont get the right answer. Is that the truth?


Brigit June 20, 2012 at 7:01 am

Jackie, I think it’s fine to read for yourself. Just make sure you don’t make these six mistakes… http://www.biddytarot.com/six-mistakes-reading-tarot-for-yourself/


jackie June 20, 2012 at 10:09 am

is doing a reading once a week ok? like every sunday for the week?


Brigit June 20, 2012 at 10:10 pm

I think so! So long as it feels right for you.


Karen Bright June 19, 2012 at 12:49 am

Re: Reading for oneself (probably worthy of its own message thread!)
I think it is quite possible to read ones own tarot cards – its just about being honest in the interpretations. Tarot readers are as human as everyone else and we don’t want to know about disappointment or failure, and we do want to hear about success and good fortune. If we read our own cards we need to be strictly vigilant that we interpret as objectively as possible.
(also don’t ask the same question over and over if we don’t get the answer we want..!)


Daniel June 19, 2012 at 2:37 am

What Karen says Jackie! its great to read for yourself. Taking one card a day for yourself is a brilliant way to improve your tarot skills and learn! However be careful when you are doing it for yourself that you don’t pick the best and most positive meanings. Try to be neutral. If you get a card don’t start searching for the best meaning! objectively feel or pick the best reading or part of the interpretation that you feel is best of the spread. It’s harder to be objective reading for yourself (I have to be careful of being too positive and optimist personally) but some tarot readers only ever read for themselves :)


Annick October 11, 2012 at 12:59 am

When you read tarot cards, you do so much more then reading cards. You are golden them a mirror in font of them. The questions they ask, tells you a lot about how the persons views life.

Thank you for your advice in how to rephrase the questions.


Brigit October 11, 2012 at 4:38 pm

What a wonderful insight.. “The questions they ask, tells you a lot about how the persons views life.” For this reason, I often just leave the question as is rather than getting in and rephrasing it because the client has asked it for a particular reason. Unless, of course, the question poses ethical issues and then that is a different matter.


Mavacan June 19, 2012 at 2:42 am

Hi I am totally reaching out here for some advise,not a reading.Ok I start at the beginning,and as short as possible .I use to study Wicca about 14 years ago.I was into it very heavy had my alter,made my own wand etc.Anyway I used a wonder first tarot deck for me was Aleister Crowley,When I had my first one on one reading with a High priestess I was drawn to those cards and got my own NEW.Ok well practiced wicca,full moon rituals,positive spells.”I followed the In it harm none so mote it be ever mind the rule of 3 rules” you name it I did it and was happy felt right.Even got married on Samhain.Life was good.Then I got pregnant after 14 years and she was born.Well time came to decide baptism and I called a church and asked them if they could do it,as I knew no one.She showed up at my home and was surprised at all the wiccian garb I had all over .Anyway we talked and next thing I knew we were at the table and she was saving me,and it was as though I was taken over by this power to banish all that I had learned and all the things I had collected,I threw everything out that had anything to do with the craft :O( That’s a part of me that is empty now and I feel bad for doing it, but like I said it was though something came over me to do it,and when I looked at my baby I told God I would not practice magic anymore.Ok Ok well years have passed I been not doing anything with religion and I went searching for another Aleister Crowley deck and found one via online used and the lady that was selling them said they were part of her fathers estate and that she had no other info,I got the deck and was happy to have them!Cleansed them with smudge sage stick and full moon lite 24 hours in a pot of earth. I did some readings here and there but still carry that guilt by doing so.I wrapped them in a lovely purple scarf and kept them in a special place. Please respect my honesty and sincerity as I continue Ok so I had this deck for a couple of years and the last time I took them out to read them I layed them out and all was blank with me ,it was emptiness but had read before this night and was “ok” but no where near as good as I used to be.So I got really upset with the cards and thought maby THEY in fact were done with me and that I should get rid of them like the others and so I did I woke up early one morning and cut each card to pieces with hurt in my heart but I did it.It is what it is and that was that. Its been about a year now and once again I feel drawn to getting another deck,so I go to e-bay and sure enough win a used deck of same,but they are smaller and are on there way as I type.They are used and the owner got them at a consignment shop no further info,so I will cleanse them and charge them,but what if im not to read anymore and its emptiness ?? I know in Christianity you back slide that’s what I have done with Wicca,what can I do to feel whole again? I am expecting all kinds of comments about this so please don`t hold back,I need to know…….Blessed be


Brigit June 20, 2012 at 6:37 am

Thanks for sharing. You might find that posting on the Tarot Forum will enable more conversation around this topic. Visit http://www.tarotforum.net


Swordfish December 21, 2012 at 8:44 pm


I suppose one could say that you must find what you *need*.

The things which you choose to hold sacred are there because of *you*, because of a part of you.

Everything is because of that.

And there is nothing without that.

….it almost sounds like you gave up something which was precious to you.. maybe crucial, when you threw things out (karmically).

Be fully honest.

Why are you a Wiccan?

Why are you a You?



Not “bad”, not “good”.


Theresa Reed | The Tarot Lady June 19, 2012 at 7:35 am

This is a great post – so useful! Your advice is spot on. May I also add: don’t ask about which team will win. I loathe sports questions. LOL


Brigit June 20, 2012 at 6:34 am

Yes! Great suggestion of what NOT to ask the Tarot cards!


jackie June 20, 2012 at 10:08 am

Mavacan: I am all about being a Metaphysical Christian. I think there is room for both. I went on a spiritual journey about two years ago and it led me here. It’s really not about “getting it”. You just need inter-reflection and community. Give yourself time.

Brigit hope you don’t mind that I gave my 2 cents!


Diana Cairns June 20, 2012 at 2:14 pm

Mavacan, I agree with Jackie. I have been a “born-again Christian” for forty years but have also had a long-term interest in Tarot cards, crystals, pendulums and “alternative” beliefs. I have found that the biggest challenge for me is to resist criticism from other people about my “unblinkered” views. Christians are advised not to judge others and I believe that you cannot judge another person until you have “walked a mile in their shoes”. Some of the nicest people I have known in my life have been Tarot card readers or clairvoyants and they have assisted me greatly in my life path. If you feel drawn to the cards, there is a reason for this. You must live your life believing in what feels right to you.


Karen June 21, 2012 at 8:59 am

I hope you don’t mind me chiming in again here (certainly this has been one of the most active posts yet!) and – again, probably a topic worthy of its own thread, but I honestly don’t believe that there is any connection between religion and tarot reading. Much as there is no connection between weather forcasting and religion (and – in my experience – the weather forcasters are more frequently off the mark than tarot readers!).

Biddy – what do you think about starting a post with regards to religion and tarot readings?


Brigit June 21, 2012 at 6:22 pm

Oh gosh, tarot and religion… there’s a can of worms! I know there shouldn’t be a can of worms, but I know how these things can go! It might be a topic that is better for the Tarot Forum at http://www.tarotforum.net


Nelly August 2, 2012 at 8:00 pm

Great post and I agree totally with 10 of the ‘don’t ask questions”. However, I don’t see any harm in asking ‘will I win the lottery’. In the tarot courses that I give, there is always someone who asks if it’s possible to ask the tarot about winning the lottery. And I usually say “go ahead, and see what comes up”. The Wheel of Fortune comes up a lot! Way more then it statistically should. What I also found is that the people who ask this questions often get cards indicating why they want to win the lottery. For example, I had a lady on the course who was heavily in debt and she saw a lottery win as the only way out. I think she got the eight of swords, but I am not sure, it was a long time ago. Someone else at the course was able to help this lady to get her finances sorted. I agree that it is actually a ‘don’t ask’ type of question, but I have never seen any harm done by asking it anyway.


Brigit August 3, 2012 at 1:53 am

Thanks Nelly, appreciate your different view on the lottery question!


roofino puta angkawijaya August 10, 2012 at 12:54 am

where will i find soulmate?can u describe how my soulmate look like i mean like short hair,tall,pretty so on


Judith August 13, 2012 at 4:29 am

Hi, Iwas doing a horseshoe reading and my cards in the order from 1 to 7 was , The Hanging man,The Devil,The Hermit,Justice,The Hierophant,The Sun and 5 of Swords, I have a feeling the cards are trying to tell me something but what? I had shuffled the card please can you help me


Judith August 14, 2012 at 2:14 am

Yes I was asking if there was any love coming into my life , Ive had one or two major cards in a reading but never 6, 1 after the other.I try and follow the story they tell me but this time I am at a loss.


Diana Cairns August 15, 2012 at 3:49 am

Judith, my Tarot Guide Book says that the horseshoe spread should be read as follows:
Card 1 – refers to the past. Card 2 – refers to the present. Card 3 – refers to the future. Card 4 – indicates the best direction for the querant to follow. Card 5 – reveals the attitudes of those close to the querant. Card 6 – points to obstacles standing in the way. Card 7 – indicates the probable and final conclusion.
I did a horseshoe spread just before you posted your question, and my reading was very accurate if I followed the above indications. In fact, Card 2 drew The Tower and I was wondering why I had The Tower for “the present”, and a couple of hours later I really was plunged into a Tower situation!
I am not a Tarot reader, but just a few quick thoughts. If Card 1 was the past, does the Hanged Man mean that you made some sort of sacrifice in the past? If Card 2 is the present, think about whether you want a relationship that is addictive or exciting? If Card 3 is The Hermit, what does this say about the future – do you need some time out? If Card 4 is Justice, this is an indication of your best course of action. If Card 5 is the Heirophant, what does this say about other people’s attitudes? If The Sun represents obstacles in the way, what does this mean? If 5 of Swords is a probable conclusion, what do you draw from that?
One thing I learnt from a lady who does readings for me is that the Tarot cards give indications of possible outcomes, but nothing is cast in stone. Your horseshoe spread has some interesting cards – what does your intuition say to you and if you are asking if there is any love coming into your life, decide what kind of love you really want.
Experienced readers are welcome to challenge anything I have said about your reading, Judith, because I am a real “newbie” and cannot give you confident advice.


Diana Cairns August 13, 2012 at 2:13 pm

Hi Judith – were you asking the cards for an answer about anything in particular, or thinking about something or someone or a certain situation when you laid out your spread?


Judith August 17, 2012 at 2:54 am

I have been having a think and I have come up with this,I think the card are refering to an ex who is never very far away from my thoughts, so subconsciously I have been thinking about him as I delt my cards.That would make alot of sense for the past and present,The Hermit is telling me to take a step back and think things over ( makes even more sense as I know it would be so wrong to go back)Justice will be done if I do the right thing Not to sure about the Hierophant or the Sun yet but I can see where its going by the last card, It has taken a while to pick the bones out of it but I think I understand now. I have started to write things down in a diary I find this really helpful seems to go in easier that way lol


Diana Cairns August 17, 2012 at 3:34 am

Hi Judith
A few thoughts but don’t take them too seriously as I am not an experienced reader.
Could the ex you are referring to be represented by The Devil card? You say you “know it would be so wrong to go back” – has this person given you the option to go back?
Yes, I think The Hermit is telling you to take a step back and build some inner strength and some confidence in yourself. I sense that The Sun as an obstacle is saying that you have lost some of your sparkle, perhaps as a result of this relationship?
With the Heirophant as “other people’s attitudes”, I think they would like to see you in a stable relationship which embraces “traditional values”? The Justice card as “your best course of action” seems to justify the other cards.
I find the 5 of Swords a very difficult card to interpret, but you say you can see where it’s going by this last card? My overall feeling about your reading is that love could come into your life but you first of all need to let go of this “ex who is never far away from your thoughts”. I know that the “letting go” would be very hard for you, but I get the feeling that it might be in your best interests and that your real star quality will emerge if you do.
As I said, I am reading your cards with gut feel rather than experience, so please do not take this too seriously. All the best, Judith :-)


Wanda September 11, 2012 at 3:55 am

Hello Brigit,
I have been receiving Tarot readings for many years, very accurate, very positive. This person that I met in 2007 has been truly honest and has become a friend and a guide. Her readings are extremely astonishing, but this year, after I practically lost everything after losing my job in 2010, it has been a challenge to obtain positive information. I am just starting to get back on my feet, and she sees many good things coming my way, but we dont know when. May I ask you, what does it mean or what am I doing wrong…..in the last month, every time i ask a specific question, we get no answer or just “wait and trust”. I have waiting for this happy moment to happen for almost a year, she sees it coming. My faith is strong, I am a very positive person, but now every time we have a reading, every month, the time frame changes. This last reading, when we asked, there was no answer……..they did not even say soon or in 3 months, nothing. Does it mean I should just trust the universe and wait? Thank you much! God bless.


Diana Cairns September 11, 2012 at 3:32 pm

Hi Wanda
I am sure that Brigit can give you a good answer based on her wealth of experience and down-to-earth approach. I just wanted to tell you that my Tarot counsellor told me in June last year that she saw the offer of a “new job”. More than a year later I have been offered that job and it literally came “out of the blue” as if the Universe had decided that this was the right time and not a minute before. I went through an extremely difficult time over those 13 months, but I learnt things that I need to learn from the job I had. Time is an indeterminate thing. I remember wondering on my grandmother-in-law’s birthday whether it was her birthday on 18th February in South Africa (for myself and my son) or was it on the 18th February in Australia (for my daughter and my husband). If you think about, my husband and daughter got to 11th September (today) at least 8 hours before I did and I will leave 11th September 8 hours after they do. I believe it’s the same with “forecasts” – they are placed in time which is moving all the time (pardon the pun!)


Brigit September 13, 2012 at 12:13 pm

Hi Wanda,

I know how frustrating it can be to just ‘wait’. But when you look back at this period several years later, you will know why you needed to be patient!

I also love Diana’s advice. Readings can take a while to manifest, depending on the situation. This may be a major change coming through, but the Universe may need you to first experience this holding pattern before you are truly ready.

Have faith :-) I know it’s easier said than done, but keep trying.

Warm regards, Brigit


Ana November 9, 2012 at 2:03 am


First of all, your site has been very helpful to me… Thanks for sharing all your experience.
Just wanted to reinforce what you said about not asking health issues, specially when you are distressed.
My doctor found a lesion on my pancreas that looked like it could turn into something bad. I asked the cards and the Death card kept coming every time, over and over again. The more desperate I got, the more I tried to get a different outcome until I freaked out and even got rid of my cards.
Then I started a spiritual treatment and journey. After an endoscopy they found out my thing was totally benign. I kept my spiritual journey. I looked at things in a different way, I got married, I moved, I restarted my old career as a teacher. I changed, old parts of mine “died”. The cards were right but my fear kept me from reading it right. Not reading for health anymore!

Warm regards, Ana.


Brigit November 16, 2012 at 9:09 pm

Thank-you so much for sharing such a powerful and personal story. It is a perfect illustration of how we need to keep our heads in check when we’re using the cards, especially for our own readings.


Anastasia November 21, 2012 at 4:11 am


I hope you can give some insights on a Tower card. I did a relationships spread about a guy I like but unsure if he’s a right person. I understand all these wands in the spread but Im totally puzzled what Tower means in a marriage potential question. The spread is below:
1.Is he/she potentially “the one” for the querent? Three of pentacles
2.Is commitment/marriage a possibility with this person? Tower
3.Influences standing in the way of a relationship. Seven of wands
4.Influences acting in favor of a relationship. Two of swords
5.What can the querent do to help (or be ready for) this person (to) become part of their life? Page of wands
6.What does this person need to do before they are ready to become part of the querent’s life? Eight of wands
7.Will the querent be happy with this person? Six of wands

Thanks in advance!!!


Brigit November 23, 2012 at 11:08 am

Personally, I see the Tower card as a sign that marriage would not be the best option right now for the relationship. There are other positive signs so perhaps it is more about growing the relationship into something fulfilling, rather than worrying about marriage at this point in time.


Anastasia November 24, 2012 at 11:24 am

Thank you! I appreciate your explanation. Time will show…!)))


Diana Cairns November 24, 2012 at 1:48 pm

Hi Anastasia and Biddy
I agree with Bridgit about The Tower in your spread, Anastasia. I had some career difficulties and this card appeared often during that time.
Anastasia, I saw this as an opportunity to do the same analysis of my own relationship situation. These were my answers:
1.Is he potentially “the one” for the querent? THE STAR
2.Is commitment/marriage a possibility with this person? TEN OF PENTACLES
3.Influences standing in the way of a relationship. KNIGHT OF SWORDS
4.Influences acting in favor of a relationship. PAGE OF CUPS
5.What can the querent do to help (or be ready for) this person (to) become part of their life? FOUR OF SWORDS
6.What does this person need to do before they are ready to become part of the querent’s life? HANGED MAN
7.Will the querent be happy with this person? QUEEN OF CUPS
I am always blown away by the accuracy of the Tarot, Bridgit. For example, the influence standing in the way is definitely KNIGHT OF SWORDS. This is another man who has taken a fancy to me and there is no other card that describes him more perfectly. He threatens the chances of a relationship with the one I am asking about. The FOUR OF SWORDS is very relevant to the situation. The Swords possibly show that I am about to undergo surgery and have been told to rest and recover before the operation, as well as after the operation.
Biddy, I would like to ask about the QUEEN OF CUPS please. I am essentially a Queen of Cups by nature. I have tried to change myself into a Queen of Wands or a Queen of Pentacles, but I always end up being the Queen of Cups (I am a Pisces). Can we change who we are? In this spread I am getting this card in response to the question as to whether I will be happy with this person – what does this mean? The man I am asking about is a Sagittarius.
Are there any cards in the Tarot which would suggest that someone has a drinking problem if they appeared in this type of spread? Or an addiction of any other kind?
Thanks again for your interactive posts, Biddy.


Brigit November 26, 2012 at 11:03 am

Hi Diana,
Other cards for addiction may be the Devil, Seven of Cups reversed (especially if living in a fantasy about it), Moon, Eight of Cups (as a form of escapism).
Keep in mind that the Page of Cups reversed as an addiction is only a possibility. It can also mean not being able to express emotions in a mature way, and quite a immature and childlike approach to life and relationships.
Hope this helps,


Diana Cairns November 26, 2012 at 2:27 pm

Hi Bridgit

Thanks for your insight on Page of Cups, and thanks to Anastasia for the advice about “gut feelings” and also the Bukisa interpretations. It is interesting to see how the Tarot cards can be viewed in slightly different ways.

Since posting my reading, which I thought was quite positive at first glance, there have been some challenging developments. My “first impressions” or “gut feelings” are proving to be accurate. At the age of 55, I have learnt that my intuition is my strongest ally. What I still need to learn is to trust it completely.

The Page of Cups in my reading was not reversed, and yet the person I asked about has quite “an immature and childlike approach to life and relationships.”

I am a bit confused!


Diana Cairns November 24, 2012 at 1:59 pm

Sorry Biddy! I just read the analysis of Page of Cups on your website. I drew this card for “Influences acting in favour of this relationship”.
The card was upright.
I note that the Page of Cups REVERSED, according to your website interpretation, can indicate problems with addiction, etc.
I fear that the man I am asking about might be this way inclined (Page of Cups Reversed) – if the card has appeared upright in answer to this question, can I stop worrying?
Any insight from any other readers would be helpful too – thanks!


Anastasia November 25, 2012 at 3:57 am


Thanks for your reply! I think you have more positive spread then mine!!! I suggest you to follow your gut feelings. You may consider bukisa explanation, just type “page of cups bukisa” and “queen of cups bukisa” in a google search. Bukisa provides very interesting interpretation for love tarot questions.


Diana Cairns November 25, 2012 at 4:33 am

Thanks for your advice Anastasia – I will look up your suggestion.
Good luck :-)


Delphilou December 3, 2012 at 3:56 am

Before I start reading for a client I always ask them what they hope to get out of the reading, what are their expectations and what do they understand about how the tarot works, I then take a few minutes to explain how the tarot works and I ask them what issues or issue they would like me to focus on. I then take it from there.


Brigit December 3, 2012 at 11:00 am

Excellent approach. It’s so important to set the scene with your client before starting a reading.


Jo December 7, 2012 at 2:23 am

Hi Brigit,
Thanks for the information on this page on what NOT to ask. I’m a newbie newbie to tarot and while learning the meaning of each card using Tarot learning book, there are times that I got emontional on the situation I’m facing within this year. Thus, I had done one of the Not to is about future by just asking outright, ie not rephasing the Q. (I tried not to ask during emontional on upstage but after it cool down more than a couple of hrs later from what I had read about reading for ourself).

As I still do not know how to do any card layout yet thus I used a 1 card drawn and ask initial Q :( Anyway, I did that 3 times within 6 mths and 2 times, the card is the same, ie Wheel of fortune. The Q I asked was somewhere like ‘Will I be able to obtain the freedom and peace I yearn for next year?’

Well, I just ‘bump’ into this page and realised my error. But somehow, from my limited knowledge from the book, it seems the card is trying to tell me not to be discourged at the down times currently experienced. No matter if I’m able to obtain the yearn feeling or not next year, I had to remember that there are up and downs in life and that I had to find ways to get out of current shit, if not, just bear with it as good times will come. This may be my own way to consult myself on current situation.

Despite what I read in this page, I will remember what not to ask (esp on the lottery haha).

Thanks & Best Regards,


Jo December 7, 2012 at 2:57 am

Just a addtl note, the other time that I got was Death card… oh boy… haha.. new beginning or end of something…basic of what Death card meant…


Brigit December 7, 2012 at 3:29 pm

Hi Jo,

Isn’t it amazing how the Universe continues to deliver the same consistent message – the Wheel of Fortune for you. I would say this is a clear sign you need to pay attention to its message! :-)

Glad the post helped,


Shivb December 21, 2012 at 8:22 pm

Disagree with all points, except maybe 10. Esp. 1.

This guideline is far too simplistic.

Also, overly cautious.

And, overly avoiding the negative by blind-eyeing actual negativity.

There is no strength in this article.


Donna January 19, 2014 at 3:55 pm

Shivb. You’re entitled to your opinion but it seems to be in a minority of one. As a guideline, of course it isn’t going to cover every single contingency or cater to the specificity of everyone’s notion of what counts as “overly cautious”. It’s important not to give a reckless and irresponsible reading where you could very well provide misleading information, isn’t it? It’s unclear what you mean by “blind-siding actual negativity” when the Tarot cards rely upon attentive interpretation: there is no “actual” anything divorced from the entire context of the reading. Perhaps it’s your points that are too simplistic and undeveloped to have any strength. I’m not sure why you felt you were contributing anything with this comment on Brigit’s post.


mark January 11, 2013 at 11:14 am

Is it bad luck to be given a deck of tarrot cards that is missing 2 cards? And if so what should I do with it?


Brigit January 12, 2013 at 3:33 pm

I don’t know about ‘bad luck’, but I would find a new deck… I lost a card once and just couldn’t handle having one card missing. It’s like a missing limb!


Meeko February 4, 2013 at 7:34 pm

Hi Brigit,

I have question.

Why tarot cards didn’t show up about long term relationship?


Brigit February 7, 2013 at 2:03 pm

What do you mean?


meeko February 7, 2013 at 5:44 pm

I means when i asked person from another website and gave me answer said card didnt show up about longer term relationship. I not sure if tell truth or not from this tarot ccards?


Brigit February 7, 2013 at 9:05 pm

Were you expecting to see something about a long-term relationship? Perhaps there were no messages around this. I would recommend asking your original reader to clarify that part of the reading.


Meeko February 7, 2013 at 11:52 pm

Brigit, let me explain to you. I not sure if I trust another website for free three questions. Type on google and psychic 21 century. This is short answers. If it is truth or not for tarot cards from that website.

Kiran Menon April 18, 2013 at 5:39 am

Hi Brigit,

I have been following your steps and blogs for long now and love the way, you describe the cards.
As I stay in India, here people still are naive in terms of Tarot or Angel cards. I’d like to share your insights on “what not to ask in Tarot” on my FB page with my clients but it would be unethical if I don’t take your permission. Hence, please allow me to share this with my followers to have a better understanding of Tarot. And i assure you I’ll spread this using your name only. :)



Brigit April 18, 2013 at 1:53 pm

Kiran, thanks for requesting permission. I am happy for you to share the link/reference and a summary of the post (i.e. the key bullet points), but not the full content please. Thanks, Brigit


Kiran Menon April 18, 2013 at 8:08 pm

Thanks Brigit :)


Judith May 19, 2013 at 12:07 pm

This is really helpful. I find the list of helpful rephrasings particularly helpful… some of the first questions I asked were the vague ‘what should I do’ questions because I was in a kind of fog and even finding the right questions to ask was so difficult.


tannia July 9, 2013 at 8:39 am

My ex boyfriend and I broke up. I wanna know if he will make things hard for me on a legal level because he’s upset or this whole thing will be left behind as we move on with our own separate lives?

Thank you. I’m worried. I just want peace and be left alone


Melissa August 16, 2013 at 12:19 pm

I always tell people that they shouldn’t ask “yes/no” questions. I tell them to phrase a specific question. And have told people, as you stated above, that the more specific the question, the more specific and thorough the answer will be.


Theresa October 13, 2013 at 4:01 am

Hi Brigit
Firstly I have to say this is by far the best tarot site I have found, so much wealth of information!
What you were saying about what not to ask the tarot makes so much sense and I particularly like your info on health questions, and everyone’s input.
I would like to ask a question regarding the Death card in a reading, do you think in some circumstances it would indicate the fore seeing of an actual death? Wouldn’t that be Tarot giving a out and out prediction? I have always been taught that tarot cannot give set in stone predictions, I would love to know your view on this as an established tarot reader of many years, your knowledge would be helpful to me..


Brigit October 14, 2013 at 3:04 pm

It is possible that Death may relate to an actual death. But I would never feel comfortable bringing that up in a reading. My heart just says, “Don’t go there.” I much prefer to talk about the concept of death being that of a metaphorical death and the purging / cleansing process that follows.


Madame Bon Dimanche November 30, 2013 at 2:04 am

When people want to empower their personal tarot reading, I refer them to this blog. There is here a lot of useful information for the novice reader. Thank you Brigit for keeping this forum going. It takes time and dedication…and love for the practice. I was scammed a lot myself in the past. That is what prompted me to study different divination techniques and have found an innate passion and talent for it. I had several generations of psychically endowed folks in the family. None of them pursued it as a means to earn money or to help people outside of the family. The tradition sort of died and I was left alone looking for honest people to guide me. Thousands of dollars later, I decided to become a professional divinor using Tarot cards, spiritism and other tools. I just launched my own website with my cousin. And the goal is to truly help people and not defraud them as I have been. Please visit us http://bonginen.com. I can promise you that if we can not help you, we will refer you to someone who can and your money will be refunded.


Madame Bon Dimanche


Ed January 8, 2014 at 1:16 pm

Hi Brigit –
My partner and I just had a reading that has left us somewhat spooked and confused. The question was “should we continue our path in the state we are in or move back to the state where we were living” – we rephrased in in 3 or 4 ways and the same negative cards kept showing for staying and they continued to show a neagativity from our “friends” and that there is malice in their actions that will block any success of staying where we are. We actually had not told our reader but we have had “friends” stand in the way of getting a job, misrepresenting us to other people…so the cards were very accurate in that respect.
Regarding jobs, the reason we moved back is we were not getting any calls or interviews that would have supported us financially. We have had calls here – we both have interviews this week – but the cards said there would be no opportunity and if there was, it would be hollow and unpromisisng and eventually lead to financial ruin.
If we move back, it says our friend and job prospects would be better, but that was not the case over the last 3 years. Yes, we had better, more trustworthy friends but employment was terrible and it came up as the strongest possibility and reason to move back in the reading –

The reason we had the reading was we are on the fence as to stay or go – financially it is safer to stay and hope for the best than move again where unemployment is still so high. When we rephrased the question “what if we stay here based on employment”, it still showed malice, negativity, and generally a bad out come. So we are still on the fence and living off savings in a state that may or may not lead to our financial ruin – we also really hate the state we are living in but are afraid of where we came from, if that makes sense – and intuition is telling us the same could happen in our previous home and state even yhough the cards say different. In this economy opportunities don’t just come along….you have to work hard for them – we don’t want to make another mistake like we did 3 years ago…
Any suggestions? Thank You! You’re blog is very insightful!


Brigit January 9, 2014 at 9:35 am

Hi Ed,

My advice would be to ask the original Tarot reader for further clarification, particularly if you are uncertain about the reading. They will be the one closest to the insights and messages received. Alternatively, you could get another reading with a different reader. Or, just go with your intuition – it’s usually right on.



Anette January 21, 2014 at 12:43 am

I’m brand new to tarot, so excuse me if my thoughts on this are stupid. Are there no questions that are ok to ask about ones health? (I know that tarot is not intended to be a replacement for a visit to the doctor. ) I have longlasting health issues, and thought of asking “What do I need to know to improve my health?” or “What do I need to learn from this sickness?” My doctor will not give me answers like “Listen more to your intuition” and things like that, that I really think would help. I just can’t understand why it’s wrong to ask things like that?


Brigit January 23, 2014 at 1:55 pm

Anette, I think those questions you suggest are certainly reasonable to ask of the Tarot. Like you said, as long as it doesn’t replace medical advice, then that’s OK.


Anette January 23, 2014 at 10:14 pm

Thank you for your answer Brigit.


Nickod777 April 16, 2014 at 12:49 pm

This is my wonderful reading…..

I had a request to discover who I was. 4 card reading. 1 at top, 2 to the left, 3 to the right, 4 at bottom.

1. The Meaning and significance of my life: Reversed The Moon
2. My true personality: 5 Swords
3. Spirit shape: 9 Wands
4. Universal advice: Justice

used this spread for just this…. http://www.tarotforum.net/showthread.php?t=140751

I understand this fully I think…


Masha July 10, 2014 at 4:23 am

Brigit… I am stunned in every topic you have here, because your explanations are so simple and clear and full of life! This is amazing source to really understand the power and wonderful story about tarot, what it is and why it is so magnificent. I am a beginner, I started to learn card meanings a few days ago, and I am so thrilled that I have this source! Thank you MILLION times, thank you! Hugs and blessings to you from Serbia! <3 Thank you, again! :)


Brigit July 10, 2014 at 6:40 pm

My absolute pleasure! I’m so glad to be a part of your Tarot journey.


Shannon October 23, 2014 at 12:53 am

When I was a child I had a reading and I had to write a question that required a yes or no answer. My question was ‘will I have twins’. How accurate will the results be?


Brigit October 23, 2014 at 3:51 pm

If the reading was done when you were a child, the circumstances may have changed significantly, so the reading might not be 100%. That said, see what happens and you will know!


Emmelia December 17, 2014 at 5:29 pm

I tend to feel a bit uncomfortable when people bring up court cases, and will probably say no to those if/when I’m asked about them because I don’t practice law and I don’t want to give them bad advice when they could just as well ask a lawyer or someone they know who practices law. Tarot questions that I will never answer are questions regarding divorce and any question regarding pregnancy.

Divorce: Simply put, I don’t want to be responsible for someone’s marriage. I have never been married and I don’t want to be responsible for someone remaining in an unhealthy/abusive marriage or a marriage they’re no longer happy with because of me, nor do I want to be responsible for someone leaving a marriage that was otherwise healthy or working out. I won’t answer questions about whether or not the querent should get divorced, nor will I answer questions about whether or not someone the querent knows should get divorced. When divorce comes up, I tell the querent to speak to a relationship counsellor/have someone they know speak to a relationship counsellor. This stance isn’t going to change if/when I get married.

Pregnancy: I won’t give medical advice or diagnosis using the Tarot or any other form of divination and answering any question regarding pregnancy–including when/if someone will get pregnant–is just too close to giving medical advice. Where I’m from, this is illegal (my mother works for the county and has confirmed this for me), so I tell my querent that I don’t answer pregnancy questions whenever I get them. Certain questions could easily be answered by a doctor anyway (“Am I pregnant?” “What is my baby’s gender and what is my due date?”) and in those cases I tell them to just ask their doctor and/or take a pregnancy test. If a person needs medical help or advice, then they need to seek it from an actual doctor.


Brigit December 19, 2014 at 1:33 pm

Great! It sounds like you have some strong ethical boundaries based on good common sense.


wendy December 19, 2014 at 10:43 pm

Hello, my names Wendy and I have been reading tarot cards off and on for about ten years. Recent readings have upset and confused me. I’m at the point where I don’t even know if I can trust the readings anymore. With my ex fiance and now ex boyfriend, with both I have received readings showing love and a future with them. ,9 of cups and ten of pents back in August when I was considering getting reinvolved with my ex fiance as and daughters father. But we did not reconcile and he continued seeing the woman he left me and my daughter for so that confused me. I met my I guess ex boyfriend back in august and have gotten the ten of pents and 4 of wands on several occasions when asking about our relationship, but things seem beyond repair now. Definitely no marriage etc we which is indicated by these two cards. Just tonight he pretty much told me he doesn’t want to be in a relationship and to see other people if that’s what I feel I need to do. I’m just do confused how the cards could be do wrong with both relationships and am starting to think I’m wasting my time with them and shouldn’t bother. Most times a reading just leaves me more confused


Brigit December 22, 2014 at 2:58 pm

Wendy, I can feel your frustration. I have been through similar circumstances where the cards have not matched the reality. Oftentimes, though, it is because I consulted the cards too many times on the same topic, or I only chose to see what I wanted to see (for example, what other cards came up, apart from the 4 of Wands, etc.?). It sounds like now might be a good time to let your cards take a rest and then come back to the Tarot when you feel ready.


Brigit February 9, 2013 at 10:02 am

Unfortunately there are a lot of ‘psychic’ websites out there that do not provide ethical or authentic readings. You need to be very careful about where you give your personal information and what you pay for. Try this post – http://www.biddytarot.com/how-to-avoid-psychic-scams/


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