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What NOT To Ask The Tarot

By May 30, 2012Tarot Tutorials

The Tarot can answer everything, right? You just think of your problem, lay out the cards, and shazzam, you have your answer, yeah?


While the Tarot cards are certainly there to guide you and to provide insight into your troubles and concerns, there are just some questions NOT to ask the Tarot.

Eleven Questions NOT to Ask the Tarot

Here are eleven questions NOT to ask the Tarot.

1. Will my lover leave his wife? Or any other question about another person’s life that is not directly related to you. This brings up issues around privacy and accuracy. Privacy because you are delving into someone else’s private life using the Tarot cards without their permission. And accuracy because you will still be seeing the situation from your/the client’s perspective and not necessarily the situation at hand.

win-lottery2. Will I win the lottery? The lottery is a game of chance and there is very little that you can do to influence you winning (except for buying a lottery ticket!). So, leave this up to chance and those little coloured balls that bounce around in the big glass bubble, rather than consulting the Tarot cards for this type of question.

3. Does my ex hate me? Or any other question that deals with such negative emotion. “Hate” is such a strong word and it often implies that you are blaming someone else for taking out their negativity on you. And, if you got the answer, yes, your ex hates you, then what? What can you do about it? It becomes so disempowering.

Instead, focus on questions such as, “What can I do to improve on my relationship with so-and-so?” or “What do I need to improve within myself to create better relationships with others?”

4. When will I die? Or “How long will I live?” Apart from being incredibly morbid, this is not an appropriate question for the Tarot because the Tarot is intended as a guide and there is really no ‘guiding’ with this type of question. Knowing the answer will not help.

5. What is the name of my soul mate? The Tarot cannot accurately name significant people in your life (at least not that I am aware of!). Sure, it can identify what type of person is best suited to you, but it will not hone in on just one person in a universe of 7 billion people. I also believe that many people have the potential to be your soul mate, so why just focus on one?

am-i-pregnant6. Am I pregnant? I’ll let you in on a secret. The best way to know if you’re pregnant is to do a pregnancy test.

The Tarot cards are not a proxy for a visit to the doctor. Yes, they can highlight if there is a possible issue or concern, but go and see your doctor to get it checked out. Leave any sort of diagnosis, prognosis, or treatment advice to the medical professionals.

7. Will my wife’s cancer go into remission? Or any other question specifically about health and the health of other’s (even loved ones). This is generally an outcome that you cannot influence, so rather than consulting the Tarot cards about what will happen, refocus the question on what you can do to support your loved one through this difficult time and maximise the chances of recovery. Similarly, if you require health advice, consult a doctor.

8. Should I take the job? Or any other “Should I…” type of question. You need to take responsibility and accountability for your own life and your own decisions. It is better to ask the Tarot, “What is the impact/pros and cons if I take this path?” or “What can I expect if I do XYZ?” That way, you are still making the decision, not the Tarot cards.

9. Whatever comes up. Not everyone is going to agree with me on this one, but personally, I find vague inquiries like this are very difficult to read on, particularly when doing an email Tarot reading. Why? Because we spend a lot of time trying to figure out where to focus before we even get to delivering any helpful insight or guidance about the situation at hand.

If your question is vague and general, so too will be the answer. If your question is detailed and specific, then so too will be the answer.

For these types of ‘questions’, I encourage the client to focus in on an area that is important to them or to nominate a specific question for the Tarot.

Face-to-face Tarot readings are a little different. For these types of situations, draw three cards and look at the key themes. Use these cards like a magnifying glass to hone in deeper.

get-married10. When will I get married? Ok, this probably isn’t a terrible question to ask the Tarot, particularly if you feel comfortable with answering timing questions or have a tried and tested method for doing so. However, the trouble with this type of question is that it assumes that you will get married at some point in your life. But what if you don’t?

I recommend rephrasing the question to something like, “What do I need to know about getting married?” or “What is the potential of my relationship with so-and-so?”

11. Will I win the court case? In most cases, this is completely out of your hands and in the hands of the judge or the court system that is dealing with your case. You are better off asking the Tarot what you can do to improve your chances of success or what you need to know about the court case at this time.

What’s more, Tarot readers are typically not legal professionals and are therefore not in a position to provide legal advice. Stay on the safe side and invest your money in legal advice rather than a Tarot reading on the topic.

What Makes a ‘Good’ Question for the Tarot Cards

Asking the right types of questions can make or break a good Tarot reading.

So what constitutes a good question?

The best questions are those that elicit information to empower you to make the best decisions for yourself or situation. They focus on what you can influence or change in a positive and constructive way.

Good questions are often open-ended, providing ‘space’ to explore different options and possibilities. But they are also detailed and specific, allowing focus and direction.

Good questions focus on yourself rather than others. They create a feeling of responsibility and accountability, reinforcing that you have free will and can indeed shape your own destiny.

How to (Re)Phrase a Tarot Question

In most cases, an initially inappropriate question can be slightly tweaked or rephrased in order for it to be appropriate for the Tarot cards.

The following questions are helpful starting points for rephrasing a question:

  • What do I need to know about… ?
  • What do I need to do to achieve…?
  • What is standing in the way and how can I best overcome this?
  • How can I improve my ability to…?
  • What role do I play in so-and-so’s life/issue?
  • What do I need to change in order to…?
  • What is the potential for…?

Thus, if the initial question is something like, “Will I get married this year?” you may like to rephrase it to, “What do I need to know about getting married this year?” or “What do I need to do to improve my chances of getting married this year?”

You can also include a timeframe in your request to increase the specificity of the question and the answer. For example, “What do I need to know about my finances in the next 6 months?” or “Will I meet a romantic partner in the next 3 months?” However, it is generally best not to set a timeframe that is beyond a year as a lot will have changed after this time.

That said, the question does not have to be perfectly worded. Consider what you really want to know or understand about a situation, and then formulate your question(s) accordingly. What is most important is that you are clear about what you’re asking the Tarot cards and that you are empowered to positively impact your future.

A Reader’s Perspective

Let me share with you an email I received recently from a Biddy Tarot reader…

“I sent you an email in October saying I had lost faith in the tarot.

“Well, my faith has been rekindled.

“I have changed my questioning on the tarot. For example, instead of asking what does a friend think of me, I now change it to how beneficial is that person’s friendship to me.

“Thank-you for the inspiration,


Over to You…

What Tarot questions are a ‘no-no’ for you when reading the cards? How do you deal with difficult or poorly phrased questions? Leave your comments and stories below.

P.S. The Art of Asking Questions is the Source of All Knowledge

Asking the right question is vital if you are looking for an insightful and powerful Tarot reading. When you start asking the right types of questions, you’ll begin to see the true spirit of the Tarot coming through.

If you are ready to learn how to ask the right questions and create meaningful Tarot spreads that will help you and your clients, check out my Tarot Masterclass – DIY Tarot Spreads. Not only will you learn how to create your own, customised Tarot spreads, you will also learn the art of asking the right questions so that you can turn any query into an empowering and inspirational Tarot reading.

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