5 Simple Steps to Read Tarot with Confidence

9 Ways to Find Your Soul Mate Using the Tarot

By May 16, 2012Everyday Tarot


Are you single and looking for love? Did you know that the Tarot cards can help bring you closer to your soul mate by understanding what it is you are looking for in a relationship and how you can find it?

Here are 9 practical ways to use the Tarot cards to find your soul mate and the perfect relationship just for you!

1. Understand What it is You Really Want in a Relationship

So often we go into a new relationship with preconceived ideas of what we want the relationship to be like. We have certain criteria of what the relationship should look and feel like and what the perfect partner would be like.

Using the Tarot cards, you can hone in on what it is you are really looking for in a relationship. Draw three Tarot cards, one for each of the following questions:

  • What do I aspire to in finding love?
  • What makes an ideal partner for me?
  • What makes an ideal relationship for me?

2. Identify What is Preventing You From Finding a Partner

So, we have these aspirations and ideals of what a relationship should look like, but we still don’t have a relationship! Therefore the next step is to understand what is preventing you from finding the perfect partner and what is getting in the way of your ideal relationship coming to fruition.

Draw one Tarot card to understand what has gotten in the way in the past, or the lesson you can learn from past relationships that haven’t worked out. Look out for reversed Tarot cards here as they represent lessons that you have not yet understood. There is a repeated pattern occurring, but you still need to work out how to prevent this from happening again in the future. Return to the lesson of the previous card to understand how to address this issue.

Draw another Tarot card to understand what is currently getting in your way.

Finally, and most importantly, draw a Tarot card to identify how you can overcome these barriers.

3. Discover Who Would Make a Perfect Partner

The Tarot  cards each have their own personalities and characteristics, making them ideal for understanding who would be a perfect match for you.

Draw one Tarot card to discover who would make a perfect partner.

If you draw a Court Card, you will learn about who they are as a person, including their age or maturity level and their personality. For example, the Page of Wands is likely to represent someone who is young (or young at heart), spontaneous, fun and full of sexual energy!

If you draw a Major Arcana card, you may learn more about what stage of life they are in. For example, the Death card would highlight someone who is going through a major change in their life (e.g. divorce or even the death of a loved one) and is open to new beginnings and new relationships, while the Hermit card may indicate you are looking for some who is going through a deep spiritual journey.

4. Get Clear on What You Have to Offer

seven_pentaclesWhen you meet someone for the first time, what do you tell them about yourself? What do you say about your work, your lifestyle, your values, your beliefs, your likes and dislikes? What is your ‘brand’?

The Tarot can help you to get clear on what it is you have to offer a prospective partner. This is like identifying and ‘advertising’ your best characteristics to the new people that you meet.

So, draw one card to identify what you have to offer. For example, you might draw the Seven of Pentacles. You offer stamina and perseverance in your relationships. You’re in it for the long haul and you’re going to stick around until you see the relationship blossom from all of your hard work. Or, you might draw the Two of Pentacles. You’re a great organiser and you can easily shuffle around your day to accommodate dates and plans with your new partner.

5. Learn When You Will Find Love

Timing is everything! The Tarot can help you to pinpoint when you will find a relationship , by using both astrological timing methods and divinatory meanings. Read more about timing in Tarot.

Select one Tarot card to learn when you will find love. If the card is upright, the coast is clear and the conditions are right to find love. Check the astrological timings to find out exactly when. If the card is reversed, you may first need to overcome a barrier or obstacles (see “Identify What is Preventing You From Finding a Partner”) or you may be delayed in reaching the timeframe specified.

6. Develop an Action Plan for Finding Love

You can use your Tarot cards to assist you in finding a new relationship.

Draw three Tarot cards to understand what you need to do to find the right relationship for you. Be on the look out for Tarot cards that may indicate how to go about finding a new relationship, such as using a dating agency (Three of Pentacles, Hierophant), drawing on friends and family for connections (Three of Cups, Ten of Pentacles), internet dating (Three of Wands), speed dating (Page of Swords) or simply waiting for the right guy or girl to come along (Wheel of Fortune).

Also look out for Tarot cards that tell you where to find a new relationship. For example, the Four of Wands points to a wedding or celebration of some sort, or the Three of Cups suggests meeting someone at a bar, or the Six of Pentacles indicates meeting someone while contributing to charity.

7. Go On Successful Dates

Before going on a date, consult your Tarot cards to understand how you can prepare, what you need to emphasise (or avoid), and how to present yourself. For example, if you draw the Empress or the Nine of Pentacles, pay special attention to your physical appearance. If you draw the High Priestess, keep some things to yourself and maintain an air of mystery. You may also want to draw a Tarot card to find out how the date will go and what you need to be cautious of (if anything).

8. Decide Between Possible Partners

Already got a few relationship possibilities in the pipeline? The Tarot cards are perfect for understanding the pros and cons of each opportunity and helping you to make a decision. Draw three Tarot cards for each prospective partner – pros, cons and outcome. Draw a final card to understand what you need to know to make the right decision.

9. Create a Weekly Love Forecast

If you like to use your Tarot cards for future guidance or prediction, draw one card for each week (or month) ahead. You will be able to see when the perfect romance is about to come up, as well as what to expect during each week. Even if you don’t get the Ace of Cups straight away, identify what you need to watch out for or what you need to focus on for each week. Use this as a tool for empowerment as well as prediction.

Over to You!

How have you used your Tarot cards to help you get the relationship you want? Share your comments and stories below.

P.S. Ready to Use the Tarot to Find Your Soul Mate?

The Tarot cards are a wonderful way of connecting with Universal energies to understand what potential romantic relationships are coming to you and how you can encourage love to enter your life.

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  • YouRan says:

    I love this article. I am a starter of Tarot reading and find this is really helpful. I have finished my 10 year relationship earlier this year and still recovering from it. I draw the cards and find it is hard for myself to interpret it. Basically, I just read from the picture of card and but get puzzled. Please help me on this. I really appreciate your help and will feedback to you for this.
    Best regards,

    What do I aspire to in finding love: Eight of Wands
    What makes an ideal partner for me? Queen of Wands(Reversed)
    What makes an ideal relationship for me? Page of Pentacles(Reversed)
    Past Obstacle: Moon(Reversed)
    Current Obstacle: Three of Wands
    How to overcome: Nine of Wands
    Who is perfect partner: Page of Cup
    What I have to offer: King of Pentacles(Reversed)
    When will find love: Lover

  • Holly says:

    I find this very average. Tried, didn’t like. There must be better ways. Ace of Wands as past obstacles lessons indeed and 7 pents/king if pents for a perfect partner. I laughed my head off, I’d rather die than come anywhere near earth energy. Failed to resonate completely

    • Brigit says:

      Hi Holly, I’d love to hear your suggestions of how you best use the Tarot to find your soul mate.

    • Jill says:

      Hi Holly,

      What about earth energy puts you off so? Sometimes the things that give us the biggest “Ahh! No!” feelings and the things that we are so afraid to think about may be the very things we need to face in life. What do you think about it?

      On another note, I’ve had a few tarot readings that have also failed to resonate – is this a failure on my part to ask the right questions? Or is it possible I am misinterpreting?

      • Brigit says:

        I think what we need to remember is that Tarot is part of self-inquiry. So even if we do get a card that doesn’t make sense on the surface, see it as an invitation to delve deeper into what it really means for you. What is it that you might not be seeing? It may also be that it hasn’t manifested yet, particularly if you are reading on the future. How can we assess if a predictive reading is accurate at the time of the reading, when the future hasn’t arrived?

  • jlovely says:

    i need help 🙁 so confused!

    What do I aspire to in finding love? – THE TOWER
    What makes an ideal partner for me? – FOUR OF SWORDS
    What makes an ideal relationship for me? – SIX OF SWORDS

    2. whats in the way (past)? – QUEEN OF WANDS
    whats in the way (present)? – FOUR OF SWORDS
    overcome barriers: – FOUR OF CUPS

    3. perfect partner: – NINE OF CUPS

    4. what i have to offer: KING OF CUPS

    5. timing: TEN OF SWORDS

    6. plan to find love:

    (a) SIX OF CUPS



    please let me know what all this means! I feel like this wasnt a very positive reading :'(

  • jlovely says:

    i feel like all of this points to the ending of something..instead of starting somethin new- would that be accurate?

  • Ann says:

    Hi Brigit, thank you for the tutorial, I tried to look into it. Some of it makes sense to me but some don’t and confuse me. Can you help me in interpreting them please? Thank you. As a background, I’m in my early 30s, single never married, has been in plenty of dates, and none of them resulted in a long term relationship. Here’s my reading. Thank you again.

    1. a. What do I aspire to in finding Love? Death (upright)
    b. What makes an ideal partner for me? Page of Swords (upright)
    c. What makes an ideal relationship for me? The Lovers (upright)

    2. What is preventing myself from finding a partner
    a. Past: Six of Wands (reverse)
    b. Present: Ten of Pentacles (upright)
    c. Overcome barriers: Temperance (reverse)

    3. Discover who would make a perfect partner: The World (upright)

    4. What I have to offer: Knight of Wands (reverse)

    5. When I will find Love: Page of Cups (upright)

    6. Action Plan for Finding Love
    a. Page of Pentacles (upright)
    b. King of Cups (reverse)
    c. The Moon (upright)

  • Jasmine says:

    Hi… Nice post !!!! Interesting things to learn….

  • Melissa says:

    This confused me. I don’t use the Rider-Waite deck anymore. Used the Aleister Crowley THOTH deck. I broke these down into questions, instead of sections. Here’s what I got:

    1.) What do I aspire to in finding love?
    9 of Swords: Cruelty, anguish, despair, loss, shame.
    Those are things I HAVE gone through in past relationships. Is this telling me I’ve subconsciously seeking out the types of men who will hurt me?

    2.) What kind of person is an ideal partner for me?
    Ace of Swords: Mix of water (emotion) and air (logic and intelligence). Strength after trouble. High intellect.
    This makes sense, because he would obviously be almost exactly like me.

    3.) What would be the ideal relationship for me?
    7 of Wands: Honor through struggles. Courage to meet obstacles. Victory in small things.
    That one made sense too. He’d have to be someone who’s been through enough in his life to understand my way of looking at things.

    4.) What caused past relationships to fail?
    The Universe
    This one appears to be telling me the Universe, Itself, caused past relationships to fail, because none of them was the right man. Could be wrong on this.

    5.) What is the primary Lesson I’m to learn from previous relationships, so that I can be with the right one?
    Knight of Cups: commitment issues. Attraction to excitement. Sensitive but shallow. Too much emotion, too soon.
    Appears to be telling me I should look beyond the initial physical attraction, and the infatuation moment.

    6.) What is my current obstacle to having my ideal partner?
    10 of Cups: Stagnation. Too content with current state. Exhaustion, from expending energy in the wrong direction.

    7.) How can I overcome these barriers?
    The Magus: Skill. Wisdom. Cunning. Messages. Creative force in action.

    8.) Who would make a perfect partner for me?
    7 of Disks: Failure. Unfinished work. Unmet goals.
    This would be the equivalent to 7 of Pentacles. So I’m guessing it’s actually saying someone who’s in it for the long haul, who’ll stick it out, through thick and thin. Right?

    9.) What do I have to offer in a relationship?
    The Hierophant: Divine wisdom. Inspiration. Stubborn strength. Endurance. Persistence. Goodness of heart.

    10.) When will I find this “perfect” mate for me?
    Ace of Wands
    Does that mean 1 day? End of summer?

    11.) What do I need to do for this to happen?
    a.) Princess of Swords: Young woman, stern and vengeful, with destructive logic.
    (Sounds like my nearly 14- year- old daughter)
    b.) 4 of Wands: Your post says this means a wedding or some type of celebration.
    My daughter’s birthday party is this weekend.
    c.) The Magus: Business transaction. Skill. Wisdom.

    I don’t have a clue what this whole thing together is telling me. I’m much better at doing readings for others than for myself.

  • Star says:

    Oh no! I just typed it all out and lost it all when I pressed the submit button! Oh well, I will just have to give you the short version, which I have luckily written down 🙂

    1. The Sun
    2. Ace of Cups
    3. Ten of Pentacles
    4. Six of Swords
    5. Three of Cups
    6. King of Wands
    7. Four of Wands
    8. Ace of Cups
    9. The Magician
    10. King of Swords
    a) Ten of Swords
    b) Ten of Pentacles
    c) Four of Swords

  • 2D14C says:

    Brigit, for the timing aspect, you list that court cards mean the timing of the event depends upon another person and a reversed card means the event is unlikely to happen until a certain barrier is overcome. What if it’s a reversed court card? Would the timing depend on another person, overcoming a barrier, or both (i.e. another person overcoming a barrier)?

  • S.D says:


    How do you know that page of swords represents speed dating and 3 of wands is Internet dating? I would never be able to figure out that those cards represent those dating methods!

  • Prik says:

    Hi Brigit.
    For the timing question, how does one interpret the Major Arcana cards?
    I got The Star.
    What time does it suggest?
    Thanks .

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