
A relationship break-up can be incredibly disappointing and hurtful. So, what Tarot cards should you look out for to foresee if a relationship is about to end? Here are my top ten Tarot cards for relationship break-ups.
Ten of Swords—One look at the imagery on the Ten of Swords and it is clear that this is about a painful, dramatic and perhaps unexpected ending. You have been deeply hurt and betrayed in this break-up and it will take many months, or even years, to heal from this difficult experience. However, keep faith as this Ten heralds a new cycle in life and new beginnings on the horizon.
Hermit—The Hermit is a solitary figure, representing a time of isolation and withdrawal from others. I see this as indicative of being ‘single’ and using this time to reflect on one’s personal and spiritual goals. So, while it is not strictly a ‘break-up’ card, it suggests a time of solitude and being on one’s own.
Tower—Again, what stark imagery in the Tower! A lightning bolt strikes, the building is in flames, and people are leaping from the windows. This card reflects great turmoil or a major shake-up that forces you to change the way you see the world. Just when you thought you were in a safe and comfortable relationship, an event has occurred which has turned the relationship upside-down. You are now confronted with major change and may be dealing with divorce or the end of a long-term relationship.
Three of Swords—In the Three of Swords, we see a heart pierced by three swords. This card indicates grief, heartbreak and sorrow. This card may appear when a relatively new relationship has come to an end, because thankfully we see the sun shining from behind the clouds, suggesting that this heartbreak is only temporary and you will soon move on to greener pastures.
Three of Cups reversed—Ah, the Three of Cups reversed! I nearly always see this card when there is a love triangle or an unfaithful partner. Now, if this is not what you signed up for, it is likely it will lead to the end of the relationship. You need to be clear about the boundaries of your relationship and what you will and won’t stand for!
Five of Swords—The Five of Swords shows that battle has been fought and lost. Perhaps you have been going through a long period of disagreements and arguments with your partner and have finally decided to go your separate ways. While the arguing is over, you may not have the closure or ‘final word’ that you were looking for. Instead of pushing the matter, it is time to let go.
Death—Death is a card of change and transformation, endings and beginnings. Your relationship may have reached its final cycle and has come to an end. It is now time to let go of the past and embrace the future by bringing about change. In many cases this will mean the imminent end of the relationship, but take a look at the other cards in your reading as it is possible that change may occur within the relationship itself, steering it in a new and more positive direction.
Two of Cups reversed—Upright, this is a card of emotional connections and bonds between two people. Reversed, the Two of Cups reflects the end of a relationship, but perhaps it is under the context of a ‘mutual parting of ways’. You have both agreed that it is best to separate and break the bond that you once shared.
Five of Pentacles—The Five of Pentacles indicates failure and loss. Two destitute figures walk in the snow, shut outside of the church despite being in need of a helping hand. With this card, expect to feel isolated and ‘shut out’ of a relationship, experiencing some financial and spiritual loss as a result. Your partner may be refusing to help you or is withholding your finances as a result of a dispute.
Ten of Pentacles reversed—Upright, the Ten of Pentacles reflects an established relationship – possibly a long-term marriage along with an extended family network. Reversed, this marriage may be coming to an end and now you are having to divest family assets and separate your finances as part of the break-up. Your family and home life are being affected too.
What other Tarot cards do you associate with break-ups and the end of a relationship? Leave your comments below!
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I appreciate your list!!! just asked if there was a split between a friend of mine and his kids mother. I got tower recently in present position for their relationship and just now I got 4 swords reversed and queen wands reversed.
the tower- means pertaining to the chaotic state of the two peoples involved relationship. something happened that shook the relationship to the point of disaster. like a split.
4 of swords reversed – there is no rest for the people involved. there are fights, arguments, sadness, depression, anger etc… everything that goes along with a split.
the queen of swords reversed – suggests that there is a narrow minded person. having to deal with a person who wont help out, constantly trying to get the other person to do his/her job. there possibly could be cheating. so i think someone could be cheating in the relationship and they got busted so that is why for the split. but i’m not sure. queen of swords reversed points to a cheater.
Its known he is already with infidelity issue’s but its been only a matter of time before he was caught again…
I just asked if there was a split between a friend of mine and his wife. Here are the cards that I pulled?
1.) The hermit
2.) The Seven of Wands
3.) Five of Pentacles
4.) Eight of cups reversed
5.) Page of Cups
6.) Four of Wands reversed
7.) Knight of Swords
8.) Six of cup reversed
9.) Death Reversed (Outcome)
Since I am a beginner, I believe that they will get a divorce. What do you think?
I am quite new in this too, what I understand is even though the couple might have gone throug a lot of ” cold war ” or emotional isolation, they will not get split eventually. Maybe one was restricted from leaving from the other one even though the relationship doesn’t seem to be fun any more. And one of the partner is trying to renew the feeling with the other one. Biddy , what is your opinion ?
Ellen, thanks for sharing your perspective. I think you are probably right… Also, they are afraid of change and even though there may still be issues, they do not want to walk away and end the marriage.
Hi, I am beginner and this is what I pull ~
Question is “What is the outcome of S & C relationship?
1. Ace of Cup
2. The Fool
3. The Hanging Man
4. Judgement
5. Wheel of Fortune
6. The Devil
7. Queen of Wands
8. Knight of Pentacles
9. Queen of Cups
10. King of Cups
I am a beginner and I think the guy still loves his ex and might just passively withdrawal. But I am so not sure because of so many court cards. I feel the guy place the relationship on destiny … not pushing it or anything~ What do you guys think ?? Totally lost ….
I’m sorry I don’t have availability to interpret your reading in this forum, but you might find another reader is happy to help you out! If you’d like a full interpretation, please visit http://www.biddytarot.com/tarotreading/tarot-reading-interpretation/
Interestingly, I often pull the hangman reversed when a woman is refusing to leave a bad relationship. Usually she’s doing everything to keep it going, but it’s long been dead. I’m surprised you didn’t mention the Lovers, reversed. That pops up a lot, as well as the Devil, in a violent or volatile relationship. This week I laid these three in key past/present/future positions: Seven of cups, the Devil, and the Tower. My client admitted she was in a rocky relationship. She said he seemed like the perfect man at first. She wanted to know if it would last. I thought it was pretty clear, she’d been harboring illusions and it was time to face facts… I do my own modified circular spread based on the Yin/Yang symbol of masculine/feminine (action/emotion) with the addition of insight cards from opposite sides in the center of the circle. I know it isn’t traditional, but my clients really love it. I lay them counter clockwise from the top, feminine motivation past, present, future, and masculine action past present future go bottom to top to finish the circle. In the center I place the masculine action insight for balance on the left, and the feminine motivation or insight on the right. I like the way the spread helps me see what the client is “doing,” as opposed to what they’re “thinking.” I know, weird, right? But I’ve been reading now for 25 years and it just works for me. I have a lot of respect and faith in the I ching, and incorporating my own influences into my readings seems to clarify them in startling ways. My daughter ended a VERY bad relationship this summer, and she’s lonely, maybe too eager to start another… She wanted insight and I pulled the Eight of Swords for her. She wasn’t happy with that and wanted to go again, and I pulled the exact same card after several shuffles. In the masculine action position I pulled the over eager fool. She was shocked, that the tarot was so clear. I’m thankful she took the session to heart and decided to get some counseling before she starts dating again.
Thanks for sharing your additional ideas for the top 10 cards for break-ups. Fantastic ideas and supported by real-life experience – perfect!
Oh my goodness i have picked virtually each one of these cards recently – thee of swords often, 10 of swords often, five of pentacles often , death often and hermit but not reversed. Part of me feels its time to move on from my relationship but part of me feels its worthwhile to carry on – is there are tarot card whose meaning is to kid onelself …
*smile* For kidding yourself, possibly the Moon reversed, Seven of Swords reversed or the Eight of Cups reversed.
I have fallen head over heels in love with someone who refuses to acknowledge my existence. So, like the thick headed lovelornbunny that I am, I turned to the tarot for answer and (false?) hope.
These were the cards.
1 7 of pentacles
2 the devil
3 the lovers
4 the king of wands
5 the tower
6 the eight of cups.
It’s probably not goin to go well for me eh?
I think I would agree! That’s ok… love and learn
Watch out for the Reversed King of Pentacles in the cause, problem or root matter as well as the current influences in a relationship reading , it may indicate being taken for a ride and advantage of. With this character over indulging in the material success others, their only objective and motives are possessiveness of you and yours, power , and wealth.
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